Advice on Love and Relationships from ChickAdvisor Staff
Happy Valentine's Day, chicks!
Love is a tricky thing, and if it weren't, half the songs/movies/art pieces etc. wouldn't even exist. Making a relationship work and last is an even trickier thing. Which is why a good piece of advice, whether or not you're in a relationship, is always welcome. Here at ChickAdvisor, we've been passed down some amazing golden nuggets of wisdom from friends and family and in turn, we wanted to share them with you, this is afterall, ChickADVISOR.
In hopes of making this your very best V-Day ever, here are some of the best pieces of advice in love and relationships we have to offer:
Ali: If you've been in a relationship for a while it can be too easy to criticize and forget to pass along compliments. Some of the best relationship advice I've gotten is make your ratio of compliments to critiques 5:1. So you are mostly giving genuine positive feedback rather than focusing on the negative things. It goes a long way in making a better, happier relationship.
Rachel: I'm noticing more and more "love yourself" mantras for Valentine's Day this year. I must say, I couldn't be happier about it. Whether you're on or off the market on cupid's most anticipated day, I think it's important to express the love you have for yourself. It's all about the balancing act: being selfless towards your loved ones but being mindful of your own happiness. My tid-bit of advice is to keep working towards your personal and professional goals. The right person will come along in due time and will be there to foster your dreams and help you grow.
Christina: My best friend preaches "you need to love yourself first, before you can love anyone else." She's a pretty smart cookie so I took her advice, because she's right! Learn to put yourself first and love yourself or it will be so hard to stay confident and support a partner in a relationship. The confidence that comes out of accepting yourself can do amazing things, like being able to hold your own in a relationship. You have more than enough love to spread around, so be sure to keep some for yourself!
Alexandra: I firmly believe in two things when it comes to making a relationship work: knowing when to say sorry and knowing when to compromise. It's easy to only ever see things from your point of view, but this is dangerous. Try to understand your partners point of view and where they are coming from, you might be surprised to learn that maybe you, and not your partner, were at fault.
Miranda: It can be hard to trust someone when you've been hurt in the past. Let your guard down a little. "Trust first until it is broken" is something a friend told me. This not only creates a positive outlook but allows you to open up in your relationship. I believe it's the quickest test of time in determining if the person is genuine or not. Choosing for the person to 'earn' your trust is setting yourself up for expectations and you will not fully enjoy the moments spent together. Go with your gut, give the benefit of the doubt and if the trust is broken -- well -- don't let the person show you who they are the second time.
What's the best advice you can give or that you've received about love?
Facebook Comments
5 Comments
I try to remember this: | |
"Trust first until it is broken" | |
Don't look for it, it just happens | |
All relationships take some work to keep them interesting. | |
I've been with Vince almost 14 years. The secret is to know when to go at it, and when to leave it alone. Love is the basis of a relationship, but compromise is the key to making it work. |