I should preface this review with saying that I haven’t dated what you would call A LOT over the years, so I suppose I could not actually relate to a large part of this book. However even though I do not have first hand experience with a lot of this male behaviour, I know people who have and can also relate based simply on the fact that I am a woman. That being said I HATED IT.

It is supposed to be a wake-up call kind of self-help book for the dating challenged. The basic idea that they try to get across is that women do not value themselves even when they have tremendous worth and potential, and as a result we pick the wrong men and end up punishing ourselves (or at least this is my interpretation of what they were trying to say). According to them women over analyze men and situations and as a result spend valuable time obsessing over the wrong men when we could be out looking for the right one. The point they really try and hit home (which is obvious from the title) is don’t make excuses for men’s bad behaviour – take it as a sign that he is just not that into you. THERE I summarized all you need to know about this book, so you don’t even have to read it now. Honestly, seeing the author on Oprah was enough to summarize the book.

The reason I hated this book SO much was because I found it to be condescending – it assumes that women are all the same, and that we all stupidly (knowingly or not) accept mens atrocious behaviour in our blind quest to find mister right. I’m sorry but I just don’t think the majority of women fall into this category, and even the ones that do, do not deserve to be spoken to the way the author writes – as if they’re stupid. I suppose they assume the ones that need the help are the ones reading the book (and considering I don’t think I needed this book I guess it was my mistake for reading it). But regardless, I will not recommend this book to any of my single friends because although the author was trying to empower women and build their self esteem, I feel that it does the opposite of what it was trying to achieve.