I’m not buying this BS

Ok a few things,

1. It bothered me that the author would mention in the book that a women should “dumb down to appease a man.” Since smart women are intimidating.

First off, as a college educated female with a career. I am not dumbing down for no one...not even to get a man. I need someone that can intellectually challenge me and the men I have dated long-term love an educated women. Only ones that would probably be turned off by it are men that are not college educated, which I am fine with since I am not interested in them. Also, it is very insulting that she would even suggest that women act dumb to make a man feel more superior this is not the 1950s!!!

2. There are valid points in this book that I have incorporated and it does work. Like how to get a man to do things in the house and it’s NOT nagging! But, I feel like a lot of the points she is making is common sense, since a lot of people do not like naggers!

3. I agree that women shouldn’t act like DOORMATS but women shouldn’t act like bitter “bitches” either. There should be a balance and because I speak up for myself or have healthy boundaries shouldn’t label me as a bitch. (I know the book is called “Why Men Love Bitches” )

4. The text is so easy to read a teenager would have no problem reading it and I do not understand the hype this book has gotten when there are other well written books that focuses on human relationships written by specialists.

I was excited to read this book because I've always heard men love bitches (or seems to be the case from my personal history). However, I couldn't stand the content and didn't even finish it. It made me look like I was always the problem and that the only way to 'keep' a guy was to conform to what he wanted and give into everything. NO WAY!!

I started reading this book and got very frustrated with the authors message and found that I was only skimming that last quarter or so of the book. I felt it was telling me to be someone I am not, like I should act like this "ideal woman that men want" instead of being true to who I am. Don't get me wrong, I want to be a woman that men want. But I don't want to have to act a certain way, say a certain thing or pretend to be something I'm not because of how it will be perceived by a man.

I felt like the author was encouraging women to lie and play games so that men don't get scared off, complacent, bored, wander off.... distracted by a shiny object.... etc... who are these men that she is getting her information from anyway!? How about being yourself? How about being honest and if he can not handle that then move on to the guy that can?

There was a scenario in the book about praising your man even when the job he did wasn't a good one and then fixing the job when he leaves so he doesn't feel emasculated or incompetent. Excuse me? What about telling him how to do it properly in the first place so that he learns how to do it? I don't want to be with a man that I have to redo all his jobs for him because it might hurt his ego to correct him the first time.

Yes, there is some good advice in this book. But I felt if was overshadowed by the negative advice. At times the advice was even contradicting itself! "Be decisive" then "let him pick the restaurant"... how about good old fashioned honesty and communication!? "Be confident and strong" but then she tells you to play games to win him over and make him want to stay!? I think this book would not be good for someone with a self esteem or confidence issue. If you are looking for a good laugh and don't take it too seriously this book might be an okay read.